I've always wondered, how could someone NOT know they're pregnant? I mean, it's obvious right? Well I've had the opportunity to speak with a real life mum,who had no idea she was pregnant until she was in labour. This is a must read story of a miraculous conception and birth.
Jasmine Johnson has kindly agreed to tell her story.
Q: Thank you Jasmine for agreeing to tell your story!
Hi! That's my pleasure- it's lovely to think someone may benefit from it (maybe someone who needs some inspiration/hope!).
Q. Were you planning to have a baby?
Yes we were trying for years- we had been to a fertility specialist - who was rather awful and unhelpful (note to self, never visit a dr two days before Christmas or it will be ruined), the fertility specialst basically said "relax, lose some weight (to both of us) and keep trying".
I was absolutely terrified that I was in early menopause. The Doctor also suggested going off all the herbal type remedies I was on, to see if my body would regulate to normal. She also suggested stopping pregnancy vitamins as well as they can hinder the body if not needed. I said to my partner "That's it, no more pregnancy tests until I know for sure as it is too heart breaking".
We then visited a new GP (due to a sexual assualt by a Dr, I wasn't keen on visiting Drs and could go 2-3 years without seeing one with no issues at all) but we thought it was time to find a good one and get things moving.
He said "you are in a stressful job, I'd recommend leaving that and do something that let's you be stress free to a degree".
"I will also let you know that trying for a family will come with awful tests and things that you won't like- are you prepared for that"?
replied - " I will work with what ever I have to to get this family".
He said "Ok then, we will get you guys to keep going as you are for now, once stress calms for you a bit come back and we will organize some tests.
I was experiencing bad nausea at this time (unknown cause- he thought stress may have been a factor), and he prescribed me nexium. The nexium seemed to help - and if I didn't take it I knew about it so, I just kept taking it.
My next visit to the Dr I let him know I was about to change jobs, and that I was worried that my spleen may have been swollen or that there was something more sinister happening- (I tend to panic as my mum passed away from cancer and she only found it due to spleen issues!) Dr Google kept me scared for sure.
My Dr said "I think you are worried about nothing, no point in me feeling your stomach I'd only ask for an ultrasound anyway".
I asked to get urine tested also to see if I had a UTI - thinking it may have been the cause of the nausea (as has happened in the past).
Dr said "we don't do them here, here is two referrals".
Then we got flooded not even 2 weeks later! August 2016 - yep, 3 bedroom house completely flooded - every room. Emergency accommodation for nearly 3 months. STRESS STRESS STRESS. We lost LOTS of things to water damage (including the referrals!) the whole house has to be repainted (yes that many months on and we are still not fixed!), the kitchen had to be ripped out, the carpet pulled up and replaced. Mega stressful. Nausea seemed worse but I thought it might be the stress.
Q: Did anything make you suspect you were pregnant?
Nothing at all as I had nausea from around 4 months prior to conceiving. I also had a small swollen area above my ribs, however thanks to Dr Google, I put the symptoms down to nexium which causes bloating.
Q: Did you have any normal “pregnancy signs” such as a missed period, nausea, weight gain, sore breasts?
Missed period - well yes- I had been months without them before though so figured it was normal for me- also lost track of the periods due to stress and thought it was understandable really.
I had involuntary stomach movements (aka my baby kicking) but Google suggested that nexium could cause that also! Silly me and DR GOOGLE! I even got my partner to feel it, and said to him "I swear I have frogs in my tummy" - He actually felt one and said "wow you need to go see a dr"!
" Yes I will eventually" I promised.
A few weeks before I had my baby, I said to my partner "Now it feels like a rabbit bouncing around, It's not just in the middle or the bottom now, it feels top and bottom of my stomach". (this was near the bottom of my rib cage, not bigger, just harder.)
He said "that is a very hard lump babe- I want you to go to the doctor"
In the days leading up to the birth, I had asked my partner "If you could have anything for your birthday, what would it be"? His reply "Just you and me- but I should be asking what you want as it's your birthday soon"? I had replied "A baby thanks". We both laughed and it wasn't mentioned again :)
Q: Did you ever think to take a pregnancy test?
Nope as I was convinced it was never going to happen to me, and had promised myself not to until I knew for sure.
Q: What happened when you went into labour? Tell Us from start to finish.
So on the Thursday, I had the 'show' start - very fluidy looking bloodish colour within my wipes at the toilet. Hence I thought my period had started, YIPPPEEE I thought- about time! I went for a walk with a friend and had a cuppa- she commented "are you feeling ok"? I said "yes I had soup for dinner and it has given me some gas pain". I wasn't bleeding heavily - however my cramps seemed bad and not to come and go like period pain, they more stayed and when driving to work on the Friday I thought "man this period pain sucks- it's like every 2-3 minutes then comes again".
The Saturday I worked on a friend's boat renovations all day- struggling to move around, I had to get helped in and out of boat area - it was dry docked so I went up the ladder around 5 meters and was terrified! Saying "I feel sick enough as it is the last thing I want to do is fall off the boat"! My partner helped me on and off to reassure me I wouldn't fall. I kept apologizing to our friend we were helping saying "Seriously guys I am sorry, I just don't feel well".
That night we went out for dinner with my father, it was to be my partner's birthday the following Tuesday and dad was headed on a cruise ship to NZ that day- so pre birthday dinner and drinks. I ate all my dinner and my back was aching soooo much I just couldn't get comfortable.
I asked if we could go for a walk after dinner, then I thought I had to use my bowels on the way down to the waterfront area- I stopped at a public toilet and couldn't go- strange I thought to myself.
I was "soft" so my dad said as I couldn't drink anymore- I said to them that I wanted to go home- and so my partner, his friend and I all left for home.
Sunday I spent most of the day in bed cuddling with my man feeling awful. Sunday night I emailed a work colleague and said I wouldn't be coming to the meeting the next day- and could I please postpone for a few days as feeling unwell!
Monday I had a pretty quiet day. Just did some odd jobs around the house and waited for my man to come home from work.
Dinner time came around and I said I couldn't eat I was just in too much pain. He suggested some grated apple (I always say that works for unwell tummies!), I had about a teaspoon and went to bed. I couldn't even sit up to watch telly.
The night went on and I kept getting up. I took pain relief and it didn't help at all. It hadn't those last few days (hahaha suprising hey?).
I had a few showers which seemed to give me relief, then I thought "bugger it I will ring the after hours doctor service and see if they can give me some answers". They couldn't fit me in.
So I went to the loo, got a hot pack, and layed it on my tummy, rubbing my own back and trying not to disturb my man- knowing he had to work the next day.
I stayed there and I felt this super wet gushing feeling.
I said "Something terrible is happening, you need to get straight out of bed and not look"
"what could be happening that is terrible" my man said.
"I think I am hemorrhaging" - I crawled out of bed and went to my ensuite - there was nothing, no blood, nothing.
I said "something is definitely wrong with me, I must have a bad bladder infection or something. I will get on my phone and book an appointment for my GP tomorrow".
My man changed the bed and I had another shower.
Well the silly website wouldn't work on my phone. I gave up! I was standing, laying, sitting, walking - nothing seemed to help. My man woke up and said "Would you like me to take to you emergency"?
"No, I said- how am I going to get in the car when I can't sit down"? I replied.
I kept pacing around the room for ages, walking through the house- then my man woke up and said "right, either you call an ambulance or I am",
I said "Ok- but find the non urgent number for them".
Within minutes they were at my house, they offered me morphine and I refused. They asked if I could be pregnant and roughly when was my last period? I said" about 7 months ago".
They said they couldn't offer me anything else, and asked if I would like a lift to hospital "yes please" I said.
I got to hospital and they put me in a cubical and loads of nurses surrounded me. "We are going to do an ultrasound" I was told. They turned the screen around to themselves and asked again when my period was last. I got my man to look on my app tracker. " Looks like the end of May till the start of June" he said to them. That worked out to 9 months.
I am thinking- 'no way'.
They said the would get another specialist to look at the ultrasound. I was beside myself with worry - but in pain so distracted.
They kept saying -"are you sure you aren't pregnant?"
No unfortunately not" I kept answering.
Then the specialist arrived, a lovely man. He put heaps more goo on my belly for the ultrasound and said "we are going to need to take you up to maternity, we need to get you checked" and walked away.
I kept looking at my partner saying "why do they keep saying the same things- we can't be?"
The Doctor came back in and said "well, we think you are pregnant- is this good news?".
"Yes, the best news. I apologize- I don't want to undermine your medical expertise but are you sure it isn't a tumor or something- can you check the ultrasound?" I replied.
"You don't need to worry about a tumor- you have a baby with a heart beat" he informed me.
So next thing we are being taken up to the maternity ward. The nurse with us says "congratulations, are you excited?"
"I can't believe it yet- are you sure it's not ectopic"? I said.
She replied "Ectopic pregnancy only happens in the first 12 weeks love".
"Ummm yes, how far along do you think I am?" I said.
"Sweetie you are full term- you are having your baby today!".
So then test after test, another ultrasound - we got to look this time- the ultrasound machine predicted 37.5 weeks and 3700grams.
A few more tests and a few hours later, they advised they were going to do a emergency C-section. My baby got stuck so they had to call another specialist into the operation, he got him out. 10 hours from when I got to emergency- I had a baby.
Q: What did you/ your husband think when you were told you were in labour/ after the birth?
I was in complete shock and denial that this could be real/happening. Partner was in shock and thinking about what he was going to do about work that day (he said haha).
Q: How did you react? How did your friends and family react?
I was quite shocked, breath taken, lost for words, disbelief. Partner was shocked, happy, excited. Family - my father was about to get on a cruize boat so we waited until he had boarded so he couldn't get off (turned out that was right after I got into recovery) - he was shocked and happy. My partner's family were and are unimpressed and do not believe us that we didn't know. Safe to say we no longer have contact with them.
Q: How did you adjust to having a newborn, especially without being able to prepare.
Still adjusting...6 weeks in and I am fully winging it. Emotionally it has honestly been a roller coaster- I have never felt such happiness, but also have no idea what I am doing. The financial burden has been shocking as well- we didn't have ANYTHING baby related. We are still learning what we will need.
Wow, what a story! Thank you Jasmine and congratulations on your beautiful miracle baby. If things weren't already miraculous, baby Henry was born on his father's birthday.